I asked him
to share what was within
his power to give.
The simple things
Not money, cars, or platinum rings.
What I requested
has been tested
and proven to be accepted
by all women.
A card expressing the indescribable.
A bouquet of flowers as evidence of blooming love.
A tender touch, warm hug, and a lingering stare
All to show that he cares.
Offering gifts to me
As one should to a Queen.
And in dishonoring she,
You lose as King.
For there is no dynasty
Without Her Majesty
So does this seem like trigonometry?
Because this math is simple to me,
The solution is an absolute.
Sum up these variables and then compute
That the best gift
Is all of you.
Tuesday, December 1, 2009
If he can't meet you where you are... leave him where he's at!
Words from Pastor Jamal Harrison-Bryant:
I often warn women who are contemplating marriage to marry someone who can take care of them. When a woman marries, it ought to be to someone who is capable of taking her to the next level. If she comes from poverty, there is no reason for her to get married and still be impoverished. The role of the man is to take her to another place.
When she gets married, she ought to dress better, drive better, live better, and eat better, not constantly be in a struggle over where her next meal is coming from. My grandmother used to say, 'I can do bad all by myself'. For a woman desiring a mate, the objective, of course, would be to find a Christian man, who's settled, has goals, accomplishments and a job. But a goal-oriented and focused man can't just be approached any kind of way. So the woman who seeks this type of stability must make sure that she stands out above the crowd:
1. Make sure your relationship with the Lord is strong and growing.
2. Make sure that you are presentable. Working from the inside out, your presentation should be representative of both who you are and whom you seek. Appearance is a reflection of how you see yourself.
3. Have the ability to hold an intelligent conversation.
4.. And most importantly, allow God to take control.
You don't need to go after him. He's going to come after you, because after he sees and smells you and knows that you're in his presence, he's going to want to know who you are!
I know there's somebody reading this who has been chasing after the 'man of your dreams,' but God says, 'Just sit still and allow patience to have her perfect work through Me.'
Furthermore, it's never a good idea to be too forward and too aggressive. Attempting to win a man's affection by jumping into bed with him will only backfire and cause him to lose interest in ever developing a lasting relationship. It causes him to lose respect for you and question your character.
However, if he sees that you are dressed with quality, that you smell like you are somebody, that you look like you're doing fine without him, then that will attract the right attention from him. He'll have no choice but to give you his attention. Stop looking so needy, climbing into bed, trying in vain to capture a man's heart.
God woke me up in the middle of the night and said, 'The same thing that Naomi told Ruth to do is the same thing that I want them to do for me.'
God is so sick of people coming to Him trying to get a quickie and never romancing Him for Who he is - going to church screaming, shouting and hollering, but hadn't been intimate with God all week long! Stop trying to treat God like a sugar daddy and start romancing Him with worship and praise: 'I'm yours Lord...everything I've got...everything I'm not!'
The God we serve, which is the God of Love, demands and requires of us foreplay before He gives us what we need. In the book of Ruth, the mother-in-law tells Ruth, 'You have to wash.' John 15:3 reminds us, Now ye are clean through the word which I have spoken unto you. When you sit in the Gospel of Jesus Christ, you are taking a shower. When you hear the unadulterated Word of God, then the dirt and grime that you've accumulated all week long begins to wash off of you.
Ask God to 'create in you a clean heart and renew a right spirit.' Stand in the word. Then wait upon the Lord to renew your strength.
Pass this on to those who have found or are seeking Mr. Right.
This message is not directed at the receiver, it is directed to women I know that touch other young women that can benefit from this information. We are to be Naomi's of the world today. Our young women need to be informed of how to catch and keep a man that will respect them.
"If he can't meet you where you are....leave him where he's at!"
I often warn women who are contemplating marriage to marry someone who can take care of them. When a woman marries, it ought to be to someone who is capable of taking her to the next level. If she comes from poverty, there is no reason for her to get married and still be impoverished. The role of the man is to take her to another place.
When she gets married, she ought to dress better, drive better, live better, and eat better, not constantly be in a struggle over where her next meal is coming from. My grandmother used to say, 'I can do bad all by myself'. For a woman desiring a mate, the objective, of course, would be to find a Christian man, who's settled, has goals, accomplishments and a job. But a goal-oriented and focused man can't just be approached any kind of way. So the woman who seeks this type of stability must make sure that she stands out above the crowd:
1. Make sure your relationship with the Lord is strong and growing.
2. Make sure that you are presentable. Working from the inside out, your presentation should be representative of both who you are and whom you seek. Appearance is a reflection of how you see yourself.
3. Have the ability to hold an intelligent conversation.
4.. And most importantly, allow God to take control.
You don't need to go after him. He's going to come after you, because after he sees and smells you and knows that you're in his presence, he's going to want to know who you are!
I know there's somebody reading this who has been chasing after the 'man of your dreams,' but God says, 'Just sit still and allow patience to have her perfect work through Me.'
Furthermore, it's never a good idea to be too forward and too aggressive. Attempting to win a man's affection by jumping into bed with him will only backfire and cause him to lose interest in ever developing a lasting relationship. It causes him to lose respect for you and question your character.
However, if he sees that you are dressed with quality, that you smell like you are somebody, that you look like you're doing fine without him, then that will attract the right attention from him. He'll have no choice but to give you his attention. Stop looking so needy, climbing into bed, trying in vain to capture a man's heart.
God woke me up in the middle of the night and said, 'The same thing that Naomi told Ruth to do is the same thing that I want them to do for me.'
God is so sick of people coming to Him trying to get a quickie and never romancing Him for Who he is - going to church screaming, shouting and hollering, but hadn't been intimate with God all week long! Stop trying to treat God like a sugar daddy and start romancing Him with worship and praise: 'I'm yours Lord...everything I've got...everything I'm not!'
The God we serve, which is the God of Love, demands and requires of us foreplay before He gives us what we need. In the book of Ruth, the mother-in-law tells Ruth, 'You have to wash.' John 15:3 reminds us, Now ye are clean through the word which I have spoken unto you. When you sit in the Gospel of Jesus Christ, you are taking a shower. When you hear the unadulterated Word of God, then the dirt and grime that you've accumulated all week long begins to wash off of you.
Ask God to 'create in you a clean heart and renew a right spirit.' Stand in the word. Then wait upon the Lord to renew your strength.
Pass this on to those who have found or are seeking Mr. Right.
This message is not directed at the receiver, it is directed to women I know that touch other young women that can benefit from this information. We are to be Naomi's of the world today. Our young women need to be informed of how to catch and keep a man that will respect them.
"If he can't meet you where you are....leave him where he's at!"
Monday, November 23, 2009
Unauthorized
Mommy's home and has given me so much food for thought, especially when it comes to my online presence and my obvious addiction to social media outlets like facebook, Twitter, Myspace, Black Planet and now my own blog. These sites are all fun for me, but I really have to take into account who I'm letting into my inner thoughts and comments on life around me. Not everyone will be happy for me and nor will they care to know all my thoughts. In reflection of this truth and on my actions in the last few months. I'm going to do a virtual "clean house" and declutter my virtual imprint. I'm adding more privacy settings to my sites and making my blog for friends only not the world at large. So, I hope you all would read and participate with me on my blog and know that it is only shared with us ~ not just anyone who may come across my link.
Much love ♥
Much love ♥
Saturday, November 21, 2009
Uncontested: Caribbean Queen
This month of November has been another fabulous month in the life of Ms. U. I truly can't complain~ God is Good! In this time in our country where there are so many people impacted by our recession, whether it be a job loss or another life altering change, I'm truly thankful for the steady constants in my life: a stable job, own condo, bills paid, and most importantly a great family and true friends.
This year we had to go back and do it bigger than ever! We set out sights on taking over Negril, JA and that's what we did! On this trip we had 12 ladies all excited and eager to hit the beach, get a bronze tan, go on excursions, wind it up at a dancehall, and maybe even meet a "Winston" :-)
Of course, I didn't have to go to Jamaica to get my groove back becuase it never left~ LOL!
Once I got back on the ground, I was on to enjoy all the luxuries that being at an all-inclusive resort provides. This means a lot of drinking and eating, lol. My new thing is Convoursier and Coke~ yeah I know its not a "island" drink, but it will get you sailing :-) I did make sure to bring some of that duty-free Jamaican rum for kicks back home.
Although I didn't go to JA to find a boo, I surprisingly found a potential love in the most unlikely of ways (at least for me). Lately, I've only have had luck meeting men online. It seems as if no one ever approaches me in person, but online I'm a man magnet, SMH! So to meet someone while on vacation, who has the same interests as me and in the place in his life where he is looking for a lasting loving long-term relationship like me is something out of a Arabesque novel.
Is this love? I don't know, but I'm excited to see where it leads! Not knowing what tomorrow brings is what makes life worth living!
My trip was awesome I could write pages on all I did, saw, and experience while there for an amazingly short 7 days. I believe that a picture is a thousand words, so here are a few more.
My dear friends and I (AKA Thick Clique) began an annual tradition last year to travel to Jamaica in November to celebrate birthdays and enjoy the island during the off-season. Last Year we went to Montego Bay, JA. It was seven of us then and we had a blast. Here's a glimpse of the fun we had. Here's my sis and I at the barefoot bar :-)
This year we had to go back and do it bigger than ever! We set out sights on taking over Negril, JA and that's what we did! On this trip we had 12 ladies all excited and eager to hit the beach, get a bronze tan, go on excursions, wind it up at a dancehall, and maybe even meet a "Winston" :-)
Of course, I didn't have to go to Jamaica to get my groove back becuase it never left~ LOL!
So, I planned to do the things I've never done before this on trip. I'm a native Floridian and I've never done water sporting! Well in JA, I jet skiied, parasailed, went boating, and bounced around on the ocean on a banana boat. I stayed at the Beaches Sandy Bay resort. I loved it! Everything was wonderful.
Once I got back on the ground, I was on to enjoy all the luxuries that being at an all-inclusive resort provides. This means a lot of drinking and eating, lol. My new thing is Convoursier and Coke~ yeah I know its not a "island" drink, but it will get you sailing :-) I did make sure to bring some of that duty-free Jamaican rum for kicks back home.
Although I didn't go to JA to find a boo, I surprisingly found a potential love in the most unlikely of ways (at least for me). Lately, I've only have had luck meeting men online. It seems as if no one ever approaches me in person, but online I'm a man magnet, SMH! So to meet someone while on vacation, who has the same interests as me and in the place in his life where he is looking for a lasting loving long-term relationship like me is something out of a Arabesque novel.
Is this love? I don't know, but I'm excited to see where it leads! Not knowing what tomorrow brings is what makes life worth living!
My trip was awesome I could write pages on all I did, saw, and experience while there for an amazingly short 7 days. I believe that a picture is a thousand words, so here are a few more.
What are your vacation memories? Do you have a "Stella" story? Do tell!
Sunday, October 25, 2009
U-Tube Throwback: Prince ~ Nothing Compares 2 U
I absolutely love this song by Prince. Its amazing how songs can bring you back to a particular place in time with images so vivid you would think it was yesterday. What are some of your songs that trigger memories of love's past?
Saturday, October 24, 2009
Un-Called for Absence
Time truly flies! Its something we never seem to have enough of, and yet on occasion, wish to rush. All the time that has lapsed since my last post, has been filled with some unimaginable highs and some unwarranted lows both professionally and personally. I haven't been writing not because of lack of content, but more of my loose grasp of this thing called time. Since August, I've interviewed for a job on the hill (didn't get it), met some interesting political players (lobbyists), and networked like I was running for VA Governor. After my month of trying to be a politico, I came to really appreciate my current job and all the perks I get for being a meeting planner. So in September, I headed to the Rockies in Colorado Springs for a conference and man did I have a blast! ~ after work, of course :-) Here's me at the Garden of the Gods.
Sadly, my cakes didn't get its candles blown out, but I did celebrate nonetheless and headed to the club!
At 27, I'm reaching for the heavens and truly the sky is the limit! I'm loving and living life to the fullest!! So if you don't see posts on here often, its because I'm out here experiencing life and not merely posting my desires or observations:-)
After my meeting there, I had the blessing to join friends in Seattle, WA! I absolutely love this city. It has it all for the nature buffs: mountains, lakes, and even a beach :-) I loved the shops at Pike Place Market especially the flowers, fresh fruits, jewelry, and of course the infamous ...City Fish Company with the flying poultry, lol.
Seattle was great!
Back to DC I go, and then came the most glorious day of the me all... my birthday, Oct 2!!!
Sadly, my cakes didn't get its candles blown out, but I did celebrate nonetheless and headed to the club!
At 27, I'm reaching for the heavens and truly the sky is the limit! I'm loving and living life to the fullest!! So if you don't see posts on here often, its because I'm out here experiencing life and not merely posting my desires or observations:-)
Wednesday, August 19, 2009
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